Skip the Clichés: Unveil Hidden Gems for Your Next Date

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Let's talk about where to go.

We've established that the whole point of phone conversations and texting is mostly so we can meet up face-to-face again and continue building that deep emotional connection.

Where are we gonna do this?

Let's start with some places to avoid.

Coffee shops, restaurants, bars.

Here's why we wanna avoid those places.

She's been asked out to these places a lot.

It's become a pattern in her life.

If an attractive woman were to accept every single time a guy asked her to get coffee, she'd be spending her entire life in a coffee shop with a guy, and then eventually I guess she'd die of some kind of caffeine overdose. (somber music) Well, patterns are just generally annoying for people.

If somebody's hearing the same thing over and over and over, it gets boring for them. - Sorry. - Which brings me to one of the principles of seduction.

We always want to be the exception. - Can we just go to the Gap?

You know what, they have us.

Okay.

What are you doing? - Cal, be better than the Gap.

Be better than the Gap. - If you've been part of style life, you've probably already heard that before.

Be the exception.

If this is your introduction to style life, then this is your introduction to a just important principle to remember.

Even if you want to ask her out to a coffee shop, restaurant, or bar, you totally can as long as you are the exception in how you present it.

Instead of just saying, let's go get a coffee or let's get a bite to eat, be specific.

Talk about exactly why this coffee shop why this restaurant or why this bar is so important and exciting to you.

Why is this a special place?

Is it because they have this amazing ambiance?

Is it because of all these wonderful memories you've developed there?

Is it because they have this certain dish or do they make the best coffee in the world?

Be specific.

Talk about why it's an exciting place, not just a cup of coffee, but this really important, exciting, special thing you could do together.

If you do that, then you can buck the guideline of avoiding those places and you can invite them to that place.

If you don't wanna go with the traditional pattern of coffee, bar, or food, here are several other great ideas for where you could meet up.

You can invite them to some form of really cool entertainment.

So if you're gonna see a live concert that you love or a comedy show or any other form of entertainment that you'd enjoy going to, that you'd be going to with or without them, for example, because it's something that you just love to see, that's a great type of thing to talk up about why you love it so much and then invite them to join in on that experience.

Here are a couple of other ideas that'd be good.

Places to invite someone to meet up.

You can do something that is a game of some sort.

That could be a sport like you could invite somebody to go bowling with you, or it could be a game like a video game arcade, or it could be, you know, a bar that has games in it like darts or foosball.

These types of interactive games are a great way to play and connect with somebody.

They take a lot of the pressure off of you just having to talk the whole time with each other and they give this cool activity where you're still interacting, so it's not like sitting in a movie theater, watching a dark movie and not getting to interact.

It's an interactive, fun, active date.

Those types of dates can be bonding experiences and bring two people.

Another great idea for a meetup would be to experience a little bit of nature together.

And there are different levels of this.

At the lowest level, you could just go on a little hike, right, doesn't need to be some kind of crazy camping trip.

It could be if you've known the person for a little while and you're comfortable with them, or if you haven't known them for a while, but you both love camping and that sounds like a great idea, you could take it a little further, or you could keep it simple.

It doesn't even need to be a hike or a camping.

You could go to a park and spend the day in the park, right?

That's a really fun thing to do, just take a walk, enjoy a little bit of nature with the person.

It's also something that's not quite as typical as a lot of these other dates, like let's go to a movie.

So that'll help you stand out and get a little bit of extra bonding time.

Plus nature is just an awesome atmosphere to spend time in.

It's beautiful, it's a fun thing to do.

A lot of people love it.

So they might respond to that invitation well.

For me, nature is one of the neatest things on this planet.

That's why Rodney and I started Nature Walk, 'cause we want everyone to know how neat nature is, instead of just me and Rodney knowing it.

You wanna be paying attention to the types of things that this person likes.

So if you're in a conversation and you mentioned hiking and they light up, now you know that's the person that you would wanna invite on a hike.

They're going to be very much excited to say yes to an opportunity like that.

And that's the type of thing you wanna invite them to, something that they would be personally excited to join in on.

If you don't have an idea of what fun things there are to do in your city, no worries.

There are tons of great resources out there.

A few that I would recommend for you, are Thrill List Yelp, or Foursquare.

Or even if you just run a basic Google search, just type in the name of the area you live in, boom, a bunch of suggestions will come up on great places you can go.

Not to mention the reasons that they're great places.

So if you're on Yelp and you look up this coffee shop, but then what appears in all of the five-star ratings are people saying they have the best hot chocolate in the world, then that's when the coffee shop becomes something that's an exception, right?

We gotta go to this coffee shop not to get coffee.

You have to try the hot chocolate.

It's known as the best hot chocolate in the world.

Here's blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.

And talk up all the things you read about it, where they get the chocolate, what kind of chocolate it is, why it's the most amazing recipe, right?

That makes it the exception.

That's a lot different than just saying, let's get a cup of coffee.

So there you go.

That's a ton of great ideas on where to meet.

If you met this person online through some kind of online dating or an app like Tinder, then there are a couple of additional things you're gonna wanna keep in mind as far as where to meet up.

One, you are a stranger, so there is a certain amount of I've never met this person before hesitation.

So don't try to meet somewhere very private.

Like, don't suggest you start by hanging out at their place or your place or something like that.

Make sure it's a public spot where she's going to feel safe to come out and meet you there.

Also, keep in mind that she might not wanna travel that far.

Since you guys don't know each other and you've never met face-to-face, there might not be chemistry.

So you both wanna have an easy out.

So make sure that wherever you're meeting up is somewhere local nearby the two of you in case things aren't working out, you can easily get out of there.

So those are the two additional things you're gonna wanna keep in mind as far as meeting somebody from online to face to face.

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